DATING ADVICE UK: Ready to Date and Find a Relationship?

Are you ready to date and find a relationship? You may think you are but if you are still playing the looser in the dating game its time to learn how to move on. Learn what you need to handle before dating, and relationships are going to work for you.

Ready to start dating to find a relationship?

Well – are you ready to start dating? This may apply to whether you have been dating or are new to dating again after a long-term relationship. “Of course I am”, you may say, but it is surprising how many people I talk to who say they are ready but when we dig a bit deeper all kinds of dating/relationship/life issues surface. How about the lady who said she was ready but there was a certain man who had been around in the background for 11 years? Or the woman who likewise is ready but never has the time even to go to the hairdressers or check her bank statement because of the hours she works?

What gets in the way of successful dating?

So much can get in the way of being ready to date successfully and find a relationship. These are a few of the things that are common:-

• Still holding emotional baggage from previous relationships

• Being in the middle of legal chaos

• Working such long hours that you can’t find the time

• Over -commitment to family

• People in your life who hold you back

• Not knowing what you really want in a life

Wherever you may be, it is important that you give yourself a dating/relationship road check. By that I mean looking at all areas of your life so that you are clear what you need to handle before you could possibly start getting into a relationship. This may sound trite but to be successful in relationships you need to find a way to be successful in life. Relationships are not an isolated part of our lives but a reflection of how we live our lives in general. If your life is in balance it is much more possible that you will be able to find, and build upon, a successful relationship.

Building a Life That is Ready for Relationship

I just mentioned a relationship road-check. If you are going to be ready to go on the ‘road’ so to speak what needs to be in place? These are some areas that I suggest you look at:-

• Physical/emotional health

• Work/career

• Lifestyle

• Money

• Family

• Friends

• Environment - home etc.

• Relationships

What you need to do is to first honestly summarise where you are in all these areas. Secondly take a look at what you might need to do to resolve any or all of the issues that are currently outstanding. If for instance under “friendship” you realise that the people you mostly socialise with are only interested in going to bars & getting drunk and you have had enough of this. You need to find people who want to do the kinds of things that you would find interesting and satisfying. Your working life is less than satisfying, how can you turn this round? Remember small steps can make a big difference and I am not talking about doing this overnight. It is not a makeover programme but a life programme. It’s about getting more focused and into action on your own behalf.

Now Get Ready for Dating and Relationship

Now you have a plan for handling some areas of your life that need attention you can also look at where you are in terms of dating and relationship. The old saying “success breeds success” may be very annoying when your life does not resemble anything like success. Just a pause here to note that success is whatever success means for you not what others might judge to be success. I can assure you that when you begin to take the steps towards becoming more successful in one area of your life there are knock on effects that impact on other areas.

Without doubt you will begin to show up differently to those around you. Those friends who held you back or not even knowing how much you have in the bank can be a thing of the past. This is about standing up and taking responsibility for your life so that you can take responsibility for the successful relationship that you really want. Take one step at a time making sure that all the steps are going in the same direction and you will realise that you can get your life moving on the relationship road.

One of the hardest, but most important, attraction tools to initiate and maintain after meeting a potential mate or *** partner is to pique her interest, arouse her passion, and raise her curiosity levels early on. You only get small amount of time before you’re making a touchdown in the friend zone on the team you don’t want to be playing on. Avoid this draft.

You want to get her thinking you are a smart, witty, sensual, and a potential dating material early on. Because women are always looking for the hidden meaning, or “what is he really saying,” and enjoy dissecting your words, you will have a great advantage over many other men if you can maintain an interesting and engaging blog and can get her to start reading soon after she meets you.

It’s like creating your own real-time, updatable, dating site profile that she comes back to again and again, feening and hungry for knowledge about you to sink her teeth into and wrap her overanalyzing brain around.

I won’t go into how to get a blog, there are tons of user-friendly platforms out there (Blogger, Livejournal, WordPress), and you can figure it out. After you get a blog, there are at least four strategies to help you get started building her info-obsession and I will lay them out for you, but first I want to give you a little background.

My Own Obsession Seeding Blog Experience-

I started blogging my junior year in college around late 2001, way before blogging was even cool. I soon found out the unspoken rules, drama, as well as accidentally discovered some unique advantages and relationship-jump starter benefits I would have never had imagined possible by putting a few paragraphs online.

I have to admit, I probably scored at least three long-term girlfriends, 20 acquaintances/friends, and a dozen dates over a four year period purely from bloggin’ it up. I kept them reading months, even years, after the relationship was over. I know for a fact these girls would continue to read my blog if I updated often enough. I am sure they eventually trailed off after not updating for months. My words echoed in their skulls and yours can too with the proper training and advice.

First, you must understand I never did anything to blatantly get a reaction (ok maybe a couple of times). That is the beauty of it: A blog is supposed to be your true feelings, thoughts, and stories. Similar to a newspaper, if it’s put in print (even digital print), it must be true and a woman can not argue with that logic when it comes to feelings because it is there own. Feelings should be trusted as truth indicators for which you can not be blamed.

Now, the Four Strategies:

1. The Unveiling - Keep it Subtle

After you’ve gone on one date, regardless of where you met her, mention that you have a blog that you keep up with that your friends read. She’ll think it is nice that you considered her a friend, then send her the address. Now that you have baited your hook, take the next step, but do this oh so carefully. She she is mildly interested, she will then use the blog to gain a “deeper insight” to who you are the days following the date.

2. Me, Me, Meeeeee — Mention Her Once & She will be Hooked

People can not resist seeing their own name in print, as well as reading your thoughts and opinions about them. Casually mention her name in a post without any strong feelings toward or against her for the most effect. Psychological experiments prove variable interval reinforcement schedules (Google it) are the strongest for predicting consistent behavior.

She’ll come back over and over, wondering when is the next time you will write about her and possibly expose how you really feel.

3. Post about Past Dates & Dating Other Women

This may seem counter-intuitive, but it ***** her in like a line of coke does to Courtney Love. This works especially well, if they are dates from the past, but if you are seeing other people simultaneously talk about those dates too. Once she has been hooked by you mentioning her name, she is sure to think you may have talked about other dates with other women in past posts as she is clicking “previous” until her pointer finger is sore. It helps even more if you post the girls’ pictures in the entry.

Dummy Disclaimer

Only post the girl’s picture when each relationship has actually ended, or it might freak the subject of the post out slightly. Always take a picture down, if any past dating partners request.

End Disclaimer

Past dates will mostly likely never ask because, even if you do post it too early, the immediate EX won’t want to admit she is still reading your blog.

If you don’t have a lot of dates to write about, write about how some girl flirted with you or how you had a great time with your friends. If you can’t be seen as a mysterious writer guy that is highly sought after, you can at least be considered a fun guy that people like and has a life of his own without her. This is highly attractive as well. That is a subject for another dating tip article.

4. Go Deep, but Not too Deep

It is good to be thought-provoking and philosophical in your entries sometimes, but don’t overdo it. This should be obvious, but don’t whine, give self-pity, or share your deep-seeded childhood feelings and stories about how your uncle touched you. This isn’t therapy, it’s entertainment for yourself, others and to help you get that next date. Good luck!

Hardcore Dating Advice For Men

In the present day and age men as a whole have lost control of the dating arena. This makes no sense ! There are a shortage of real men in the country, but yet women are dictating all the rules. Men are portrayed as a bunch of beer drinking ,sex starved morons who can’t do anything right, unless instructed by a woman. Present day man has been pummeled by the Oprah taught “I am woman revolution” who all say they don’t need a man. Men that’s a lie ! It’s time to help set the record straight…Enter Frank “The Hammer” Valentine…a real man…from the days when Men were Men has set forth rules aka The Hammer Rules and direction to assist the present day men gain control of their lives and their women.

Rule 1: Get A Backbone

Women don’t want a weak man. They want a real Man. A real Man is like an outlaw. They love the outlaws. Why? Because an outlaw doesn’t bow down to anyone and express their mind. A real Man is the leader ,they take charge. A real man would never allow a woman to brow beat them. All real Men follow this rule:If a woman can’t accept the Man being the head, then cut her loose ! Who needs the headache? FTH isn’t trying to run for office, so he says what’s on his mind and keep his options open.

Rule 2: Quit Looking For Your Mama

Many of the Men today are completely sorry when it comes to the basic points of life. Meaning they can’t even boil a damn egg or make their own beds so they go out to find a woman, to take the role of their Mama to fill this need. These type of Men are looked down by women today. So tighten up on the basics and stay independent.

Rule 3: The First Real Date…

Take charge while on the first date because this is when the first area of jockeying for power is going to happen. The Man is going to be interviewed and scrutinized by every means necessary. Go on the offensive and be honest. Real Men don’t have to lie. If a question is asked to a man and he doesn’t want to answer, then don’t. Set the pace and direction of the conversation. (FTH) likes to use one favorite line while sitting in front of the lady on the first date , “Other than *** what can you do for me?” Say nothing else and listen. She will be forced to offer an answer and it shows the serious side of the man. Why waste time?

Rule 4: Don’t Play Married

(FTH) states the following points to the lady. Three things will happen while being together…

a. We either will become the best of friends

b. Break Apart

c. Get Married

Yes, by stating the “M” word we as Men establish our serious side. However note there is nothing gained by playing married. Quit adding the stress of married people by acting married.

Always respect the woman and oneself. The above points are just a few areas that may offer insight into being a better Man. Stay tuned for the next edition from Frank “The Hammer”.

Hardcore Dating Advice For Men #1

In the present day and age men as a whole have lost control of the dating arena. This makes no sense ! There are a shortage of real men in the country, but yet women are dictating all the rules. Men are portrayed as a bunch of beer drinking ,sex starved morons who can’t do anything right, unless instructed by a woman. Present day man has been pummeled by the Oprah taught “I am woman revolution” who all say they don’t need a man. Men that’s a lie ! It’s time to help set the record straight…Enter Frank “The Hammer” Valentine…a real man…from the days when Men were Men has set forth rules aka The Hammer Rules and direction to assist the present day men gain control of their lives and their women.

Rule 1: Get A Backbone

Women don’t want a weak man. They want a real Man. A real Man is like an outlaw. They love the outlaws. Why? Because an outlaw doesn’t bow down to anyone and express their mind. A real Man is the leader ,they take charge. A real man would never allow a woman to brow beat them. All real Men follow this rule:If a woman can’t accept the Man being the head, then cut her loose ! Who needs the headache? FTH isn’t trying to run for office, so he says what’s on his mind and keep his options open.

Rule 2: Quit Looking For Your Mama

Many of the Men today are completely sorry when it comes to the basic points of life. Meaning they can’t even boil a damn egg or make their own beds so they go out to find a woman, to take the role of their Mama to fill this need. These type of Men are looked down by women today. So tighten up on the basics and stay independent.

Rule 3: The First Real Date…

Take charge while on the first date because this is when the first area of jockeying for power is going to happen. The Man is going to be interviewed and scrutinized by every means necessary. Go on the offensive and be honest. Real Men don’t have to lie. If a question is asked to a man and he doesn’t want to answer, then don’t. Set the pace and direction of the conversation. (FTH) likes to use one favorite line while sitting in front of the lady on the first date , “Other than *** what can you do for me?” Say nothing else and listen. She will be forced to offer an answer and it shows the serious side of the man. Why waste time?

Rule 4: Don’t Play Married

(FTH) states the following points to the lady. Three things will happen while being together…

a. We either will become the best of friends

b. Break Apart

c. Get Married

Yes, by stating the “M” word we as Men establish our serious side. However note there is nothing gained by playing married. Quit adding the stress of married people by acting married.

Always respect the woman and oneself. The above points are just a few areas that may offer insight into being a better Man. Stay tuned for the next edition from Frank “The Hammer”.

Online dating websites are everywhere nowadays, it seems like no matter where you look they are flooding the page! Sites like True, Match, eHarmony, are constantly raiding our pages with ads! There actually is a valid reason behind this though. Dating online, or rather finding a mate online has become one of the biggest things to do or at least try over the last 8 years or so. And it’s very likely that if you do go to sites like True or Match that you will actually find someone to date or even get married to eventually. I’m a total cheese ball, I love romance, I love love, I love being with that perfect person! I’ll admit it I have tried True as well as a few others!

But what if you are new to dating? Or what if you are just completely lost when it comes to men or women? Well a good thing to do would be to find the nearest “dating advice” site as soon as humanly possible! Some people don’t date because of other reasons, but if you really are confused about the opposite *** and that’s why your not dating? Think of all the incredible things you are missing out on! Plus, going on a date is a very good way to finally get your friends to stop nagging you about how you never go out and spend too much time at home, cuddled up on the couch with Fluffy your Bichon Frise watching movies on Lifetime! Oh, you know who you are!

These dating advice sites are really cool because they really do give you advice on everything and anything you might want to know about the opposite ***. Here are a few things these dating advice pros might go over with you on blogs, videos, pod casts, etc:

- Things to do and not do on your first date

- Good hygiene practices

- Tips for setting up conversations

- Finding a girl/guy

- Daily Tips

These sites are not the same as dating sites. They simply offer you easy tips on things like how to get a date, what to do on a date, or better yet what to do after the date is over. What’s polite? What’s aggressive? Do girls like guys that are macho or sensitive? Well all you need to know and more is available on these sites in a very convenient, organized manner! If your looking for sites that have dating advice, go online and look for things like Dating Advice. This should find you plenty of sites that are willing to help you out with your current dating dilemma!

A lot of men just are not feeling comfortable flirting women or approaching them. Maybe it’s because every man has to find his own unique way to flirt in order to suceed. It’s a matter of recognizing and incorporating your special skills to your flirting strategy. We all have some unique skill whether it is humor, musical talent, talking, drawing or whatever.

I’ve got 3 quick tips for you that will open your flirting horizons. Before all, make sure to always follow your heart. Acknowledge your special skills, go out there, have fun, flirt with women and don’t be afraid of rejection. Keep trying. Keep dreaming until your dreams come true. But let’s move on with my dating advice for men and the strategies that I strongly recommend:

Dating Advice number one!Imitate the successful players. This is the coolest dating advice for men ever. We all know of people that are successful at dating beautiful women. We all have at least one friend who knows how to seduce a woman and keeps winning in the relationship battlefield. Well, sit down, think of what this man is doing, what’s so special about him. Then write it down and implement it. If you can’t figure out what to do, go ask him what’s this special feature or tactic that makes him win. Men usually share their dating secrets. If you approach this man with respect for his dating abilities then you’ll get your dating advice.

Dating Advice number two.Start feeling good about yourself. You are what you are and if someone don’t like you, that’s just fine. Feel proud for what you are and what you have to offer. You can start feeling good by taking good care of your body and soul. It’s all you got. Start feeling confident about yourself. Confidence is a smart weapon. If you have trouble feeling confident then do anything that will boost your self esteem. Take a walk, go to the gym, go to the movies. You’ll never know who you are going to meet there. Maybe you’ll get lucky and meet the woman of your dreams.

And last but not least. Dating Advice number three.Volunteer yourself. Start performing community service. clean up the park, start telling stories to children, start contributing to your community. You get the picture, right? Show that you care about the world and the people around you. And you know what? A lot of really nice women will be impressed by your attitude. Women love men with that kind of broad thinking and personality.

If nothing happens, at least you’ll be giving back to the community.

Never consider yourself a failure in dating women. Attracting a woman is both an art and a science. You can do it. Even the most beautiful lady can go down on her knees for your love. That’s a fact.